The only way to meet those you really want to is to be upfront and honest first about who you are. I am a compassionate, down to earth guy who is very reserved outside of the bedroom (except for a very warped sense of humor) but would actually like to meet the woman (or couple) that will stretch my open-minded sexual limits. I am not into drugs, and am disease free. Am curious about alternating roles with a woman - she as the aggressor - or me - all in the name of sexual and sensual pleasure. Personally, I like either a lady who is a bit shy at first, but has always harbored wild ideas - or one that knows what she wants and goes after it - sitting on my face before we have had time to talk...discovering what we have always wanted to do and being able to talk openly and respect each others limits. The most I have ever been involved with is mutual spanking / paddling which, to my surprise, I rather enjoyed. I also enjoyed my experience with male / female couples - and still hope to explore many more uninhibited fantasies there, especially with a totally poly-amorous bi-sexual couple. I am 49, educated, have black hair and goatee, bits of gray, and I like friendly, open people like myself. I am not a partier or big on bar-hopping. I am clean to a fault (OK - my mind is not) and hope to meet individuals that are as well. Pics available, just ask. Mixed race: half-Asian, half-American. Many call me a bear because I am on the hairy side. I weigh 230 lbs, have broad shoulders, a 38" waist and 46" chest - have a belly on me... If you meet me you will see it, especially if we are naked, so you read about it here first...(There is a photo posted taken 9/2011 that shows it). I am VERY, VERY oral and love to kiss, lick, and taste everything that will bring pleasure, and I surely do not mind the favor being returned. Thanks for reading.

My Ideal Person I love people - all shapes and sizes. I am more into the heart and sensuality than the size and shape. Cleanliness is pretty much a given, but a sense of humor and intellect helps too. Easy-going people that like meeting new people are my favorites. I like to put others at ease, and in this case, but in the case of fantasy role-play, many different things can be acted out. I would love joining / watching a man making love to his wife / girlfriend. Have also liked men watching me with their women and joining in...but really like the women who like watching two men. When I am attached, I do not play with others - unless I meet a woman that likes to swing - then we will play that way too, if she likes.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Various...usually from the 1970's...

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Spanking, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Leather

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Carrie Underwood...she is beautiful - and it seems to come
from the inside, which makes it genuine. However, if it
really came down to it, I really wouldn't do it with
someone that young in real life - not even Carrie...

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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