UPDATED 08/01/2023: Hi…I'm Lydia:) I'm half of a happily married ENM couple, who play separately with each other's full knowledge and consent. The swinger lifestyle has been part of your relationship since its inception in 2001, though we did take a break from it for a number of years for medical reasons. We spend a lot of time apart due to my hubby’s extensive work travel schedule so when he’s home, he has my undivided time and attention unless he is otherwise occupied. When he’s gone, my time is more flexible for meets and playtime. We play by a set of rules that have evolved over the years, one of which is that we don’t play at home. I will share the rest of those rules if we decide to meet. If you are not cool with the lifestyle we choose to live, please move on without sharing your judgement and ridicule. I'm a 5'6" voluptuous, full-figured, curvaceous, Rubenesque, pear-shaped, 57-year young BBW, working on becoming a stronger, healthier me. I have shoulder length red hair, pale white skin and bright emerald green eyes. I rarely wear makeup as I have very sensitive skin. I’m a well-educated, well-traveled, well-groomed, semi-retired professional, whose wardrobe spans the range of yoga pants to evening gowns. I can be a lady when required and a hedonist when the situation allows. I'm a multi-orgasmic screamer, who enjoys kissing, the art of touch, extended foreplay, lengthy playtime and likes to talk dirty when the mood strikes me. I'm sometimes a female ejaculator. Yes, we really do exist...we squirters are not just a porno special effect...lol. I'm not looking for the love of my life (I already have that), but I am looking for LOCAL ongoing FWBs IRL that would like to do things socially (e.g. happy hour and shoot some pool, grab dinner, hit a show or a club, visit Scarlet Ranch) as well as sexually. I do not travel to play unless I'm coming to your area for another reason, though I do get up to Denver periodically. I'm not into cyber, cam to cam, exchanging pics, having phone sex or random DTF stranger hookups. I'm not a one-night stand or drive by booty call (unless it's on a regular basis) kinda girl. I look for ongoing friendships with benefits both in and out of the bedroom, so trust is built between playmates, which allows for safe uninhibited fantasy and kink exploration. My posted pics are recent. My plaid shirt and jeans pics are from Thanksgiving 2022 and my lingerie pics were shot in January 2023.

My Ideal Person I’ve always been attracted to men my age or younger, but to me that means late 30's to late 50’s, not under 32 or over 62 as we are in different phases of our lives. Although I am a BBW, I tend to be attracted to the opposite body types…athletic, muscular or physically fit. I appreciate men who are well-dressed, well-groomed, smell good and fill out a pair of jeans in all the right places. What can I say…I admire a great ass on a man or a woman…lol

What I find attractive in a man is flirtatiousness, confidence, assertiveness, sociability, maturity, respect, honesty and candor. A well-spoken conversationalist who is intelligent and has common sense as well as a sense of humor is what piques my interest. If we can't laugh together, what are we going to do if one of those life's most embarrassing moments happens in the bedroom?

As far as cock size goes...Size DOES matter. I don't believe bigger is better, but girth and stamina are always good. I like average to above average length. 6"-8" is GREAT. 9" is pushing it. If you're hung like Thunderbolt the WonderHorse, find another girl. I'm not into pain, only pleasure. Bonus points if you understand the importance of touch and know how to trigger more erogenous zones than just the genitals. Since I mow the lawn, I expect you to prune the tree and bush. No one likes to have to stop to pull hair out of their mouth lol.

Everyone has some sexual partner aversions...their absolute hard NOs. These are mine:
• NO Cheating Spouses (no judgement, just don’t ever want another 3am call from an angry spouse)
• NO Unsafe Sex or STDs (one of our rules as a couple is condoms mandatory)
• NO Heavy Drinkers or Drug Users (I drink socially, but don’t enjoy people who are drunk or high)
• NO Smoking (I’m asthmatic so being around smoke is not good for me)
• NO Bad Hygiene (I can’t believe I have to even say this…showered, clean clipped nails, clean teeth)
• NO Comb-Overs (if you’re losing your hair, own it…bald men are sexy too)
• NO Big Beards (I have very sensitive skin…close clipped soft beards are fine, but prefer clean shaven)
• NO Naked Men in Nothing but Their Socks (though it gets a laugh, it also kills the sexy vibe for me)
I know that's a pretty long list of NOs, but we all have our preferences.

For me, it's all about chemistry. That first kiss tells it all. It either leaves me wet and wanting more or it doesn't. If it doesn't, it never will. Sex should be exciting, passionate and fun, not feel like a business arrangement. If the chemistry is there for both of us great...let's get to know each other and have some fun. If not, that's cool too. I know everyone has different tastes. Worst-case scenario, we make a friend or wish each other luck in finding what we are looking for. All I ask is you to be honest about it. I will be too. No hard feelings. (Hint - I expect you to initiate that first kiss...if you don't, I will assume you aren't interested.)

So, let's chat to see if there is mutual interest in a public meet in real life to put that chemistry to the test. I will not set up a meet without seeing a recent pic first. I'm not looking for a dick pic. The first thing that attracts me to a guy is his face, body and personality, not his cock. If you don't want me to see your face pic, then you must have something to hide. If we set up a meet in real life, please have the courtesy to actually show up. Being a no show is just rude!

If you message me on Stripper Girls Gone Crazy and you do not have a pic on your profile, please attach one to your message. Without a pic, I can't tell if I'm interested. If I politely decline your invitation, please graciously accept my NO as my final answer. There is no reason to be rude if you don’t get the response you hoped for and know that no amount of persistence will change my answer.

Hope to talk to you soon.
Kisses, Licks and Gushes…

~:~ Lydia ~:~
fieryemeraldeyes

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Natalie Merchant, Tori Amos, Aerosmith, Neil Young, R.E.M.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Dominant Man/Submissive Woman, Train, DP

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, D/D Free, Respectful of My Marriage & Our Rules

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Brad Pitt, George Clooney, The Rock, Vin Deisel, Tom Cruise, David Boreanaz, James Marsters...take your pick...lol

As far a what happens in the fantasy, take a guess...lol

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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