First Meeting
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Posted:Jul 21, 2013 7:49 am
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2013 7:50 am
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When I first joined this site I was in search of a Single FWB type situation as my profile alludes to; however it did not happen as such. I could take you through all the trials and tribs of that process in another blog. Today I want to talk about my first couple meet because I think there where some useful lessons learned from that experience that might save you all some time and embarrassment.
At this time I was living in Boston, Mass and was a member of Stripper Girls Gone Crazy for about 6 months. I was getting a bit concerned as all I was seeming to get emails from were suspiciously hot girls that wanted to see pictures of my bait and tackle. And although this was many years ago, webcams were of significant availability that one or two could have owned one. We are talking about the home of M.I.T and IRobot.
So here we are, particularly disappointed in my social activity, feeling a bit underwhelmed by the choices and this couple starts to email me. At first we just chat back and forth, I express how I am not that interested in the couple thing; however, we have some fantastic conversations. The wife begins to explain to me how they came to this point, which made a bit of sense. So one day we decide to meet.
Mistake 1: Being that we were both new to this and I had previous reservations; we shouldn't have met in a small hotel room. Not exactly the most relaxing place to get to know one another when the bed sits 2 inches from your knee, shouting get on my mattress!!Make it happen you little shit!
-What it did was make someone's eyes or hand drift to the bed every 5-10 seconds and make some sort of uncomfortable joke.
Mistake 2: Husband brought dirty videos and had them playing. First off, not completely wrong; it just wasn't who he or she were. He was overcompensating for his discomfort by being overly sexual with the vibe.
-What it did was have us sitting, again 2 inches from the bed, talking trivial subjects while this constant moaning, waling and extremely loud and wet blowjob was occurring 14 inches away from our face.
So here we are. Three nubes sitting in a 28 SqM room that is all bed and XXX sound effect, trying to get to know one another. After several failed attempts at making a connection, I made a comment about how this was the anti porn movie scene..a little laughter and while that was still lifting the room, I suggested we go out for a walk, have a light dinner or drink and talk.
I them told them, lets not actually explore the sex this time, lets just talk. Now folks, did I fully intend to close with sex that night..well I am a boy, and boys will be boys. But what I did was remove the pressure. So from that point on we just talked, laughed and reacted like friends.
Lesson learned. How many friends, couples or the like do you know in a social environment that you have become attracted to and began to fantasize about. You couldn't do anything about it because she was married, he was married, everyone was married. It just makes the other person even more appealing. So by replicating this natural social environment, lightly touching a hand, laughing, flirting etc. The same type of taboo sexual arousal is produced...Well this is Stripper Girls Gone Crazy mother lovers....We can do something about it.
So what happen next as the night wore on, we flirted a little more and I snuck a little fondling in between glances out of the watchful eyes of the husband...more taboo sexual nitrous. And before anyone knew what was happening that 28 Sqm nunnery became a downright Caligula sex villa...
Now this experience was years ago and I have met couples that are all manner of experience levels since. And I have learned to deal with each one as a unique opportunity. Also, I make it a point to try and stay with one couple for a long period of time if schedules and locations permit. Obviously as you become truly comfortable with one another the encounters improve. But the excitement and the thrill of first times are precious. What might be more interesting are the first times where it turns out the wife didn't even know...Guys!! do not do this to your girlfriends, wives, the other guy or the world in general. It does not work out the way you might have envisioned it in your head. Your partner talking to you about a fantasy of meeting a stranger n a bar and having sex with him, does not actually translate into..wanting to meet a stranger in a bar and having sex.
Women have a duality, tripality..God even a quadality and things are not that cut and dry. Think Dustin Hoffman in Tootsie, when the girl told her what she wished some guy would say to her. He promptly changed into his guy duds and said the speech and what happened??
Same applies, involve your partner in the fantasy, choosing the guy, deciding how to meet, etc. That is just a little random thought.
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