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The ability to satisfy the one your with first  

stillneedanother 53F
9 posts
10/20/2018 12:18 am
The ability to satisfy the one your with first


Throughout my journey in sex I have to say that I have experienced maybe 10% of the people have the ability to satisfy the other first. I think of this all of the time and want to understand that way of thinking? Please anyone help me to understand this ever so disturbing act.

hornyjohn169 42M
494 posts
10/20/2018 3:23 am

I think it's simply a case of a lack of knowledge, patients and selfishness. It takes more than a little friction to get a woman off. You also need to know what she likes and enjoys and more importantly what she does not! Sex is a form of art and if you want to paint a masterpiece you cannot rush to finish it.


stillneedanother replies on 10/25/2018 2:11 am:
Damn I really like your thinking. You truly are in the 10%.

OralDrew13 45M
117 posts
10/20/2018 5:21 am

I always try and please her first. I feel guilty if I get off and she doesn't. Besides if you make sure and pleasure her, then she will be even more eager to pleasure you.


luvgluv19 75M

10/20/2018 6:28 am

Share and share alike or you could lose him or her


luvgluv19 75M

10/20/2018 6:29 am

    Quoting luvgluv19:
    Share and share alike or you could lose him or her
By the way, you have a lovely face to go with a pair of yummy breasts


stillneedanother replies on 10/25/2018 2:08 am:
Well thank you for the liking them.

FredFrederson303 48M

10/20/2018 3:41 pm

I don't get it. I love making sure that my partner gets hers first. It's such a turn-on to see and feel her in the throes of orgasm. Plus, it lubes things up pretty nicely for intercourse.

And it's so easy to work cunnilingus into foreplay that it's almost shameful not to do it. You know, you can work your way up one leg with soft kisses and nibbles and down the other, with just a brief pause to tease her by exhaling heavily on her pussy, before returning when you've made your way up and down both legs.


Gottasmallone55 63M

10/22/2018 3:25 pm

I have learned through the years to give oral orgasms using my lips tongue and fingers and some women experience multiple orgasms while receiving oral. I think most women take longer to get into their zone and by taking your time caressing and teasing your partner then working into oral, they have a much better experience.


stillneedanother 53F
6 posts
10/25/2018 3:05 am

I need to make a correction to my blog by saying that they don't lack the ability to please first but the desire to please the other first.


us2foryou85 61M/39F
4 posts
11/12/2018 9:53 am

we have noticed this as well.
sexual selfishness defeats the purpose for us. my girl knows that i have no desire to finish before she gets hers. her getting hers is what i want the most and her orgasm is what puts me in the place where i can cum as well.

unless she has something different in mind, i can't even think of going before her.
sometimes it results in neither of us actually having an orgasm but rather just enjoying a nice sensual session. those few occasion where stress or whatever it is that fogs her mind and keeps her from release are just little reminders that we need to enjoy the journey and not be so focused on getting to the destination.
it also makes the next time that much better.
all in all, we are both pleasers, so we've grown to know how to dance through the desires to make darn sure everyone is happy and satisfied.
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Liznsub1 77M/77F  
3 posts
7/31/2019 6:40 am

We are all unique. When I am with a woman, I really want to explore her body, find the sensuous differences and similarities between us with my fingers and tongue. Honest communication can be difficult and daunting, so I like to take it slow with conversation and touch.

Or, we can always get out the toys! while we talk and play together!


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